- Don't spread out energies, go farther in the truly vital areas.
- Requires a keen filter to go through options and select the essential
- Live by design, not default
Peter Drucker: "In a few hundred years....most important event...wont be technology, internet, e commerce....it will be substanital and rapid numbers of people having choices. For the first time, they will have to manage themselves. And Society is totally unprepared for it"
- Having it all is a myth, you must make choices
- Why are we not celebrating time we have with people we love, listening, pondering and meditating?
- What if students had time to think about highest contribution so when they left school they weren't just racing to nowhere?
- Choice is an action, not a set of options.
- When we forget ability to choose, we learn to be helpless
- Efforts and results may not be linear, may have a "power law". Almost everything you can do is worthless with view things of exceptional value
- WE either make choices, are they are made for us
- Which problem do I want?
Four burner stove. Extreme example: cut of 1 to be successful, really successful, 2.
Without great solitude no serious work is possible - Picasso
- Abolishing boredom —> pondering and deep thinking become casualties
- Not just the who, what when, where, need the WHY it matters
- Be journalist of your own life, write the story you want in the context of your meaning
- Discerning what is essential to explore is a skill
- Write a daily journal, less than you want each day. Review quarterly.
- What question are you trying to answer?
- Play broadens the range of options available, is an antidote to stress, +ve effect on our executive function of the brain
- Sleep is at top of list of protecting the asset of yourself
- New something must pass a 90% threshold "Hell YEAH!" or "No"
- Area to concentrate in: What am I deeply passionate about? What taps my talent? What meets a need in the world?
- People thrive on clarity. That's why you must eliminate objectives you have chose not to pursue. Be explicit and ruthless
- When you aren't clear in your own lives, you make up stupid social games to worry about
- Essential Intent = Concrete and Aspirational
- Creating Essential Intent is hard. It takes courage, insight and foresight to see which activities and efforts will add up to your highest point of contribution.
- Apply zero based budgeting to your time — start from scratch and use 90/10 rule
- Best editors use subtraction
- Don't make exceptions (slippery slope)
- Boundaries protect time from being hijacked
- Forcing others to solve own problems is equally beneficial to you and them
- Existentialists plan, look ahead, come up with contingencies
- Always look for and remove "slowest hiker" in your job or your life, keeping you back from what really matters to you
- Start out small and build from there. Progress is the strongest human motivator
- Pixar: We don't finish our films, we release them. Always iterating, improving, get feedback loop going.
- Cue then routine then reward = habit
- What would you like to do someday? not a commitment llist, but get it out of your head and prioritize.
- What you put on to do list is more important than how fast you check things off
Bottom line: Live without regret. Think about your choices, identify what matters, invest time and energy into it and you cannot regret, win or lose. You become proud regardless.